Is it really the other woman’s fault?
So we have all by now heard the reports that Kristen Stewart has had a fling with the director of Snow White and the Huntsman, Rupert Sanders who is married with two children. What has really caught my interest here is the comments at the bottom of all the news reports from readers wanting to give their opinion. They range in severity, however the general gist is “Kristen, what were you thinking, that man has a wife and two children, don’t go breaking up a family.” Now don’t get me wrong, yes those readers have a point, however she is just a 22 year old girl who is making stupid decisions. Umm hello?? Don’t you think we are forgetting somebody here? The tirade really should be “Rupert, you have a wife (and she’s a model at that) and two children, don’t break up your family.”
At what point do we stop blaming the other woman and directing all our rage at her? At some point the men that have had these indiscretions, need to accept some blame and responsibility. It doesn’t really matter who approached who, who made the first move or who decided the affair was a good idea. At the end of the day whether or not another woman cares if the man she is scoping out is married or otherwise taken, no matter how much of a vixen she may be, said man needs to stand up and simply say no. “Sorry love, flattered but I am married and have two kids.” Whilst she has performed stupidity at its best (and in the public eye no less), Kristen is 22 years old, and at nearly twice her age, Rupert should know better.
Does it make it easier for us to salvage our relationship if we send all our hatred and rage in the direction of the other woman so we can believe that our men really did just have a momentary lapse in judgement and we can save our families? Yeah it probably does in the short term.
Does it make it easier for us to sleep at night believing that some evil woman must of used cunning trickery to lure our husbands away and that it could not possibly be that all he was thinking about was … wait, no there was no thinking (well he was thinking with, ahem *something*).
The short answer is it is horrible to be cheated on, whether you have a family or you don’t, but when you do have a family, don’t just aim the firing squad at the other woman, remember there was a man that was meant to be stronger and should have said no.
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I love this blog. The media hypes up about Kristen in the wrong and they forget than an older, married man was involved. It’s the same in real life. The other woman is easy to blame, and to excuse the male’s “indiscretion” as she ” tempted’ him so it wasn’t his fault. I think you hit the nail on the head, and we need to remember in situations like this, when emotions are running high, that it takes two to tango.